On June 4th we were about to go out on a hot date to celebrate our 8th anniversary…but our anniversary was forever hijacked. Benjamin decided to come 4 weeks early, all 4 lbs. 14 oz. of him. The umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck twice, so things got intense as our doctor masterfully cut the cord and delivered the baby. Otherwise all went quick and as smooth as labor can. We knew something was different though (being our 3rd boy), there wasn’t the normal buzz in the room. Beth was still in post-labor daze and, it wasn’t much longer after the initial inspection that the pediatrician told us Benjamin has several characteristics of down syndrome.
It was heavy, but we were still ecstatic about our baby boy! The tension of our love and excitement for our new son and the waiting 6 days for the test to come in. There were a few tears and lots of prayers. We weren’t really praying that things would be different, but that God’s glory will be shown in all this. There was fear of the unknown, there was fear of how our son would be accepted (not by us, but people can be cruel), there was uncertainty as to our responsibilities as parents.
After a couple of delays we finally got the test results back on Monday and Benjamin was confirmed as having Trisomy 21 aka Down Syndrome.
Some Scriptures we’re clinging on right now are:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
We are at peace with it…yeah we had and still have fear, uncertainty and other emotions. Our prayers for Benjamin are no different than our prayers for his older brothers: to be a strong man after God’s heart and to impact people’s lives for Christ. We are quite certain he will.
We agree with what Mark Batterson says, We don’t love our boys equally we love them uniquely. They are each made uniquely in the image of a God that loves them. They are loved by the two of us. Benjamin is loved by his two big brothers.
We would appreciate if you would pray for his health as there are a number of health issues that are common with down syndrome, particularly that his heart and body will be strong.
That’s our unexpected journey, but it will be a great one.
Love you guys,
Aaron and Beth